When meeting an attractive girl many times you will get nervous. That is fine, sometimes it's good, since she knows that you are interested in her. Usually she will also show signs to be nervous. If the girl you are trying to pick up finds you tense, like for example, you can not say a word, or some other action that makes you look tight. It will help to mention that you are a little tense, and then keep going with a smile. Generally, the girl you are talking with, may not even notice that you are melting inside. Many times girls are worried or totally centered on how they look.

NEVER present yourself in a diminutive way, or treat yourself as an unimportant person. Some guys do not want to sound arrogant, so they go to the other extreme, and talk about their jobs, interests, life, etc. in an insignificant way. Do not spend your date saying negative things about you. If you see yourself small, so your date will see you small, and you will be uninteresting to most girls. The Woody Allen style does not work, believe me

Show some self-confidence. Women like that in a man they meet or want to date. On the other hand, women do not like men who complain, and whine all the time. If you are the melancholic kind, my advice is to change that attitude. This only works in a small group of girls who believe that in order to be worthy to be with a man, they have to help you, and fix you; like if you were a poor insignificant soul. Yes, you will find them out there, but it's a relationship that may not make you happy, you can read all about this subject in "Women who love too much".

Also, never talk about the ex wife or ex girlfriend for more than 30 seconds. It is VERY BAD to spend your time talking about your last relationships and old dates. Only do it to present yourself as somebody who was in a relationship before and is very available now

Don't be impolite, rude, and vulgar. Never insult and offend your date. Do not even get close to jokes that may offend her in the first date. This is worse if you find one of those politically correct extremist devotees, you can offend her so easily, and kill your chances to score wihtout even knowing it. Once I made a bad comment about tofu eaters. The girl I was with, took the comment like if I insulted her dead mother. If I took the time to find out that this girl was a PETA radical, I would've keep the joke for myself.

So, keep your mouth under control. Never criticize her, insult her, and show her lack of respect. Do not do any comments that degrades her, or humiliates her. In no way talk to her in a demeaning or inferior tone. She may very well be into feminist stuff. Do not make any macho/male superiority comments, if you still have them, yes you are still one century behind, but nevertheless, if you want to meet and date girls out there, don't let these comments get out of your mouth.

Don't talk about crude sex right after meeting a girl for your first date. If she likes dirty talk, you will find out later after she can trust you and feel informal with you. Touch her arm, waist, and maybe only by what it would look like a mistake, rub your shoulder or arm against her breast. After doing this, look at her, and measure her response. If the girl is at ease and smiles, then you are doing well. If she looks uncomfortable or steps back, then apologize and keep trying to get rapport with her. With this girl, you can not ask for sex too fast, or touch her private parts now. This is a guide to pick up women, not to pick up $200 hookers.

Women hate men who are ARROGANT AND IMMATURE. Be friendly, nice, and confident. If you act cool and dry, you'll get no girl who will be interested, unless you are one of the lucky guys with the model looks, in which case, you may not really need this guide to date and pick up girls.

Always smile, look approachable, friendly, accessible, and self-assured. This will make you look attractive. Trying to look cool and tough may work against you, instead of helping you to find a woman.

Women are attracted to many different attributes and characteristics in men, some will find your feet attractive, or the hair on your chest; some like domineering, loud, or maybe timid men; and it doesn't matter if you are either arrogant, shy, or unfriendly; these women will still be attracted to you. This is because they found in you, something that turns on that key of their fantasy, and they are blind to any other relevant characteristics you may have. The problem is that they are not in every corner, so you have to polish your attitude and presentation to find, meet, date, and get a relationship with a girl.